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  • Yolanda says:

    These small steps have become a new life line for me. I have been trying to lose weight God’s way for about a year so far and I am so thankful for 20 lbs lost. I know to some it may not be that much weight for the timeframe but I like what Kimberly said about how we don’t put the weight on overnight so don’t expect to take it off overnight. I have struggled with weightloss for over a decade and I felt I could never do it. Kimberly thanks for the encouraging words and I am committing to the small steps one day at a time. I want to wish everyone success in this love walk with ourselves.

    • kimf says:

      Hi Yolanda,

      Congratulations on your weight loss – 20 pounds is a LOT! Try this sometime – the next time you are in the grocery store, get some large cans of vegetable shortening that equal 20 pounds total and try carrying them all up the aisle and back. Not easy, is it? And yet, before you lost that 20 pounds you had to carry that equivalent extra weight every day! So 20 pounds is not a small thing. Celebrate that success even as you work on the next chapter 🙂

    • Stephanie Richardson says:

      With God all things are possible s
      Just continue the small steps you are doing great

  • Julie says:

    I did this but it has terrifed me. I am not afraid of the commitment. I am terrified because I realized that I am still going to be the same person I am now at 60lbs overweight as I will be at my ideal weight. What I weigh doesn’t change who I am. If I don’t like myself at 60 lbs overweight how am I going to like who I am at my ideal weight? I need to change how I feel about myself now…changing my wewight is not going to change that. Changing what I think of myself is more important than changing my weight because it doesn’t matter what I weigh, it matters who I am. God loves me today – now – If the God of the universe loves me just as I am today why can’t I? What will it take to love myself unconditionally like God does? I am terrified I won’t be able to be successful at accepting what God calls good, wondrous, the apple of His eye, beloved, secure..if I can’t do this nothing else matters…not my weight not my accomplishments not my looks – nothing.

    • kimf says:

      Hi Julie,

      I appreciate your post. When you wrote, “I am terrified because I realized that I am still going to be the same person I am now at 60lbs overweight as I will be at my ideal weight. ” I immediately thought – “You will except that you have the grace of God upon your life! That makes all the difference.

      The bible says in Romans 12:2 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Your mind is renewed as you meditate upon and elevate God’s word in your mind. What does God say about you? When will you start believing His word more than you believe your negative thinking about yourself? That is a choice that only you can make. The fear that you are expressing is not coming from God. He did not give you a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Starting today, act according to the WORD, not according to your feelings and your mind will begin to be renewed.

      God bless you!

  • Julie says:

    Thank you Kim…I have an affirmation to your advice….I saw a beaded bracelet at the camp store my daughters went to two weeks ago and bought it then. It was different colored blue beads and 1 pewter bead with the word “believe” on it. I will start wearing it every day now and when I “hear” myself say negative things I look at it and say to myself “believe” and then I will pray for a verse to help me replace the negative thought. The one I have been going to the most is Ps 139:14 (from Day 1) Thank you so much for your ministry. I have tried so many different ways to lose this weight and lost it only to regain it. Your challenges and ebook have been the most successful and freeing. No rules no bondage to meetings or weighing & measuring (except to learn proper portions) or forbidden foods just checking in with the Word of God and the Spirit for help with the best choices for me! God Bless You!

  • Victoria says:

    Dear Kimberly,

    I have been dealing with my self image ever since I have been in elementary school and I’m only 20 right now. For years I’ve been trying to push away the idea of loving myself for who I am an not what I weigh. In the last 8 months, my weight has sky rocketed back up to being 60lbs over my ideal weight due to moving far away from home to go to college and living in a place of emotional discomfort. Though I live in a different location, my binge eating continue to increase and further creates negativity as well as a cycle of emotional, spiritual, and physical distress. I’ve fallen so far away from people, family, and the Lord that it feels as if I will never crawl out of my despair. How do I allow myself to accept and let go of these instantly gratifying cravings? I’m gratefully appreciative of your ministry but I’m still having a difficult time shedding the fear of being acceptable to others which goes as far as to be too embarrassed to visit my old church when I do visit my parents sincevthe last time they saw me I was very slender.

    • kimf says:

      Hi Victoria – Thanks for writing me. It sounds like you are being tormented by feelings of shame, fear, anxiety, depression and many other negative emotions. As long as those emotions rule your mind, it will be very difficult to get control of your eating. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. God is a healer and he can heal the emotional distress you are in and bring you peace that surpasses all understanding. Do you believe this?

      The first thing I ask you is – do you have a relationship with God through accepting Jesus Christ as your personal savior? When did you do it? Take a look at your foundational relationship with God through the basics of faith:

      The second thing is – do you believe your feelings about who you are more than what God’s WORD says you are? You must make a choice about that because what you choose to believe about yourself shapes your life. Here is an article I wrote about what God says about you:

      Everyday, you must be diligent about renewing your mind in God’s WORD so you know and believe that what God says is true. You can walk with your head high because you know that you are the beloved of God. The joy of the LORD is your strength.

      Once you have that foundation straight, ask the Lord in prayer what small step you can take today to change your health for the better. Take that small step. Then tomorrow take another, then another. Focus on changing your daily habits and soon your weight will take care of itself. God bless you!

  • Michele says:

    Dear Kimberly
    Day Three – What would my ideal day look like at my ideal weight? What a great exercise to get me focused on the possibility of change! No matter what the day’s activities would hold, if I was at my ideal weight, my day would be much simpler. My focus would be shifted away from constant monitoring of food, what I can and cannot eat, the guilt associated with that and what I look like. I wouldn’t have to think about what to wear, as anything I chose would fit me at that time. I could dispense with having two or three sizes in my closet.
    I believe my focus could more easily be put on Jesus, whom I love. I would have a bounce in my step, love and appreciate my health and energy and accomplish more. I might even find a love of exercise in some form. I would stop talking about how big I am. I would start seeing people for more than what they weigh. I could enter into conversations about health, recipes and exercise without feeling like a loser-outsider. I would not have to feel guilty anymore or like some sort of social curiosity because I’d be a “normal” weight. This is only Day 3, but I’ve appreciated these small steps in the right direction. One day at a time!
    God Bless

  • Becky says:

    This one took me 2 days to complete! Why is it so much easier to DO something rather than sit and THINK about something? I did it though! Thank you so much for your website! It is such an encouragement to me! I love the motivating verses that are throughout. God bless you!

  • Kim Smith says:

    I love this site and the gracious encouragement that is given. It just seems to make weight loss doable. To God be the glory!!

  • Lois says:

    I’m not sure how to answer these questions….however, my heart is in it….I want to feel better physicallly, mentally and most of all Spiritually. I believe God expects up to take care of our bodies…but life and age has a way of getting away with us. I lost close to 50 pounds before this is not excuse but because of different circumstances in my life such as the death of my mom and a job change I’ve gained it back so now I’m full of guilt because of it. I want to do this God’s way as I know I can’t go wrong if I do it his way. Thanks you for this site.

  • Darlene says:

    This is what I wrote in my journal.
    At my ideal weight, my first thought was: waking up without pain in my joints and able to walk downstairs without holding onto the rails or walking downstairs sideways. Carrying around so much weight makes tired easily.

  • loti says:

    When i reach my goal, I will wear a beautiful dress. For once I wont worry if someone will notice me being big. I wont worry if someone can see my belly fat, i dont have to hide it with a huge bag 😀 i will run as far as i can and fast as i could. And thank God for helping me to become healthier.

  • Maria says:

    I know that when I reach my ideal weight I will be & feel so much healthier. I will be free form the nagging frustration of knowing that I am not doing the right things for my health & at 65 that is a big concern as srokes & heart attacks & diabetes etc.,are a big risk . Tkank you God & Kimberly for this wonderful program & I pray for God’s strength to faithfully complete the 31 days

  • Amy says:

    This seems easy right now. Adding one new thing a day is great.That is how I process everything. I am worried about two things. First, this is Christmas break. I teach. What is going to happen when we all go back to school and life gets hectic? Second, what will happen on day 32? My heart is in it, but will my head be in it when it is full of so many other things I have to jugle? Lord lead me to a healthier lifestyle so I can be who you want me to be.

    • Kim T says:

      Hi Amy – way to go for sticking with it! I want to answer a couple of questions you asked:

      What is going to happen when we all go back to school and life gets hectic?

      My answer is: “The same thing that always happens to your health goals when life gets hectic…unless you prepare yourself now to take a different path.” The 5th step of the Take Back Your Temple process is “Expect Tests and Be Prepared”. You already know what happens to you when life gets hectic. Why not use that experience to your advantage? Think about the situations that tripped you up in the past. Then, write down a way you can deal with that situation so that you can stay on track. For example, let’s say that you always get hungry around 2:00 and are tempted to go to the vending machine to get something to eat. This time, you decide to keep a colorful lunch bag in your desk drawer with fruit, small packs of nuts, low calorie-high fiber energy bars to snack on if you get hungry. You also fill up a water bottle at the beginning of your day and make it a game to finish it all by the end of the school day. The key is, you must always make eating healthy and exercising as automatic as possible. That increases your odds of success.

      As a teacher, you must be VERY creative. I know you can come up with plans to deal with sabotaging situations. Approach it as a lesson plan, if you will. Use each plan and if it doesn’t work one way, then try a different way until you find one that works. You can do it!

      Second question: What will happen on Day 32? I can tell you that if you keep on walking the steps that you’ve learned about on Days 1-31, you will be on your way to a healthy lifestyle that you can live with. Only you can make the choice on whether the steps are worth it to you to keep practicing them. I pray you will choose wisely!

  • Lorie says:

    I’m ready to have a better life so I can give more to others and honor God.

  • Shannon says:

    I will not have to worry about getting dressed in the morning, everything will look good. I will be a role model to my daughter. I will be a better witness to the goodness and glory of God. I will be able to go horse clinics and not worry about people taking my picture and posting on facebook. I will be a lighter load for my horse to carry. So excited!!! Thanks for the one day at a time deal. That is really helping for some reason. I have 30 pounds to loose and can’t wait! One of my boys is a senior this year and will have parents night soon for basketball (when all the seniors and their parents walk onto the court at half time and get their pictures taken) and I won’t need to be embarrassed or fake a sickness to avoid the pictures!!! Yippee!!!

    • Kim T says:

      Hi Shannon, I appreciate you for writing me. Remember to stay focused – one thing to do consistently is to anchor yourself in God’s love for you. He loves you no matter what size you are, so know that you are loved and accepted by God. Live your life according to that belief regardless of what people say or do.

      You might find this article helpful:

      One day at a time is the ideal way to make changes, which is why it works. After all, we can only live life one day at a time anyway. Plus, doing it this way reminds you that good health is a lifelong journey and commitment.

      May God bless you on your journey as you strive to glorify him.

  • Andrea says:

    I am so blessed. When I think about what I would do at my ideal weight I can’t think of anything different except that I would help others who are suffering the way I have all these years. I think I would use this as one more way that I would devote my life to helping others.
    But on a more self-centered view, I would buy cute clothes as actually like the way I look in them. And, I would appreciate every advance from my husband…:) I may even take advantage of his newfound interest for me… :)Not that our personal life is lacking now, but when I am more comfortable with my body, then that just sounds like more fun for us…..

  • mary hegseth says:

    Day three: i would stand up straighter, head held high, i was smile more and greet those around me. I would not hide inside of me as much, my confidence would reappear.I would have one less worry of not being accepted.i would no longer wear comfy big clothes i would dress for sucess and i would finally believe that i am worth everything God has intended for me.

  • Cindy says:

    I start my morning with an inner shower of 16 oz of lemon water & stretch on my way 2 where my scale USE 2 B, but now have a written out prayer & scripture. Read it OUT LOUD & as I am on my way 2 my devotional area, I pass the mirror & stop a moment to praise God for Magnificently making me & 4 helping me 2 re-build His temple & ask Him 2 continue 2 help me walk in step with his HS. I have an intimate quiet time with God while I drink my 1 cup of coffee for the day & then do a 1 hour work-out….&…>>>>PRESS ON with my day rejoicing!!—My thoughts aren’t on food all day, because I have meal plans that r now a new lifestyle, which is prepared in advance on a regular bases…I walk with elegance & confidence holding my head high—I will Pay It 4ward!!

  • Genevieve says:

    I don’t hate myself now.But i could buy some new clothes that would actually look good.And I could spread the good news about Jesus a bit with this website.

  • Katrina Warren says:

    I love this exercise, because it forces you to be real. It also gave me some motivation

  • Peggy says:

    I’m having some health concerns today and am in a pad place right now. I think I’m just going to walk today and come back and do these steps tomorrow.

  • Peggy says:

    I did this step and have moved on to step 4 and five. just forgot to post.
    I am finding practicing this has helped have more energy.

  • Reeli says:

    I am very commited to making changes that will last, so I will be able to lose weight finally. It is very good to think about the reasons why I want to do this, it makes my motivation stronger. But at the moment I don`t want to think about future at all. Because it only makes me depressed to come back to my real life from those beautiful dreams and realise that it might take years to get there and I`m not even close yet. And when it becomes overwhelming like this, I just feel like giving up before I`ve even started. So I prefer concentrating on real changes that I can make here and now and try to feel good about everything I´m doing to reach my goals. I let the future take care of itself.:)

  • Avery Leigh says:

    I just completed the 3rd day and I’m feeling that I can do this, I will finally be able to lose the weight. One day at a time and one prayer at a time. I drank my water, did my stretches, and wrote my essay on my ideal weight. These daily activities are really making me understand how overwhelming losing weight has been for me. Taking it one day at a time, doesn’t seem so overwhelming. Everyday I look forward to reading the next step and doing it. I don’t worry about tomorrow, just today. This reminds me of Matt. 6:34 where we are told not to worry about the future which is out of our control but focus on the present.

  • Becky Jane says:

    These are steps anyone can do. My list would include feeling lighter and healthier. No more worries about getting diabeties because of being over weight. It will be great knowing I’m taking better care of this special temple the Lord has given me. And I will have fun trying on new clothes with my teenage daughters.

    One other thing that will be exciting – since I’m confined to a wheelchair it will be great knowing that I’m doing all I can to help those who help me do things. Being over weight makes more work for my husband and family…my husband won’t get worn out pushing his chubby wife around the grocery store anymore…he’ll have to get his exercise a different way…lol

  • Whiteladee says:

    I have completed day one and two and am headed to day 3. After I lose this weight, I will feel more self-confident. I will be more comfortable in my clothes and I will actually have clothes that fit. I know that it will take some time to get this weight off because it has been a part of me my whole life. I believe I am ready to say good-bye to the weight that’s been weighing me down. My husband loves me just as I am, but I want to be and feel irresistible in my own eyes…lol. I walk with my head high now because I am a child of God, but I also want to walk with my head high because I feel confidant and sexy. So this new found journey that I have embarked on will change my life. Glory be to God!

  • Caridad Ramos says:

    I will be able to play for longer period of times with my grandchildren, I won’t be so tired and sleepy all the time and definitely my clothes will fit as they should, I will regain the confidence I have lost and I will know I will be around much longer for my girls and to do God’s work here on earth.

    Thank you.

  • monica says:

    I can’t fit into any of my beautiful clothes . I quit smoking only with lots of prayer 4 years ago and my weight has risen every since . So I’m praying now for God to help me lose this because my health is also declining . I don’t want to be miserable . I want to be fit on every sense of the word . I’m determined .

  • Carri says:

    I will be me again! Losing this weight that has seemed to define me at times, will give my energy, confidence, and zest for life back! I will be me again!

  • Allison says:

    I will be who God intended me to be. I will not destroy the temple he gave me. I will not end up like my Grandmother who had diabetes and died in her mid 60’s. I will be strong for my kids. I will be a role model for my kids and students. I CAN do this. I WIll do this.

  • Carol says:

    My work-outs will be easier. My clothes a bit looser. I will hopefully have more energy God WILL open new doors of opportunity! I am watching, waiting and listening.

  • lawrenta says:

    For the past six years I have been adding on weight steadily. I fear to think of how heavy I will get as the years roll by. I need to be at a good body weight and to learn how to maintain it. Am eager to learn how to stop using food as a comfort and relying more on the Holy spirit for comfort. Am also hoping that by applying the teaching and spiritual discipline of this exercise , I will also be able to confront feelings of inadequacy I have concerning setting up my cake shop.

  • Patrice says:

    My vision is to be healthy for me and for my son. His father died of a heart attack a few years ago and missed a lot of the milestones in our son’s life. Healthy for me means being here for my family and my future grandchildren. Having a healthy weight means fitting into the clothes I really like and looking good from head to toe. Healthy means more confidence; healthy means I did it just for me! Healthy means being obedient to God and able to do what he calls me to do and to be a living example of what his word will do if you apply it to your life. Healthy means I no longer need food to comfort me. Healthy means better sleeping and a more active lifestyle. Healthy means I will be able to run again!

  • sharon says:

    How will your daily life be different? I will be more confident in myself. I will look better in my clothes. I will feel good about me. I will be able to slide down the sliding board with my grand baby, fit/sit in the wings and feel good about me. I will represent God physically as well and spiritually more confident in my looks as well as my intellect. What will you be able to do then that you can’t do now? Fit into smaller clothes in my closet, feel good about me. What will you feel then that you don’t feel now? More confident.
    This is day 3 for me though I started earlier but didn’t finished I didn’t stop just started over. One step at a time.

  • Shawna says:

    Romans 4:17b states that God “calleth those things that be not as though they were,” and death and life are in the power of the tongue. So I’m going to speak this in present tense, how I see myself being. Thank You, Lord, because of you I can even envision this for myself!

    I have abundant energy! I climb the steps at work with ease, go dancing with my husband, and coach soccer again. I age gracefully, not needing hospitalizations and loads of medications. I speak God’s love and give testimony to all of His mighty works, and minister His works worldwide in loving action. I am a witness of his blessings, and the fruit of temperance is evidence to others of the power of His Holy Spirit in my life.

    I am not controlled by food. My meals and snacks are planned in advance, and are tasty, satisfying, and nourishing for my body. I eat all things in moderation. I work out at least 5 days a week. My kids do too, and make good food decisions.

    I feel liberated, empowered, and mighty in His strength. I feel alive, and I am an overcomer!

  • Susan says:

    When I am healthier my day will begin by rising more refreshed with more energy. I will have slept better without having tossed and turned because I had eaten so much the night before that I felt ill. When I look in the mirror, I will smile. I look forward to aging with health. I will be able to look forward to watching my grandchildren grow and be active in their lives. I will be closer to God through this journey.

  • Gisele says:

    When I am healthier, I will sleep more than 4-5hrs a night/day pending if I am working night shift or not. I will have a solid Word based habit of getting out of bed with a smile on my face because I will know who I am, I will know that I overcome in the food area and I will have the energy to run to my Bible with anticipation for this new day to start. I will be living this poem:
    Discovering daily who God really is,
    Thanking Him daily He’s mine and I’m His,
    Discovering daily God’s great love for me;
    Such mercy, forgiveness, amazingly free
    Discovering daily that God really cares,
    Discovering daily He does answer prayers,
    Discovering daily what grace really means:
    Unmerited favor beyond all my dreams.
    Discovering daily God speaking to me;
    He speaks through the Bible. Once blind, now I see.
    Discovering, discovering each day that I live
    That all that I need, He freely will give.
    Discovering daily Christ working through me,
    Accomplishing daily what never could be.
    Discovering daily: I can’t, but He can;
    Thanking Him daily for my place in His plan.
    Discovering daily how real life can be
    When I’m living in Christ and He’s living in me.
    Discovering daily a song in my heart
    With anticipation for each day to start.
    Delighting and basking in love so divine,
    Secure in the knowledge I’m His and He’s mine.
    Besides mere contentment, excitement I see!
    A daily adventure: Christ living in me!

    My, my….one day I will get there.

  • KB says:

    I want my normal, perfect day to began with a good sweat from exercising. I would then shower hot water and call the prayer line. Next I would take vitamins. My ideal weight wold be reached. I would feel everything is ahead of me. Cheerful, happy and loving spirit.

  • Reggie says:

    My ideal day would not include loads of couch lounging, procrastination and inactivity. It would have the random or overeating that has been a thorn in my side for many years. I would not play with my kids from a seated position. I will not feel unhealthy, some of you may know what I mean. I will not feel like I can’t do this or don’t want to do that.
    My ideal day will have a go get’em attitude! It will include healthy and wholesome eating and a greater desire to stay healthy. I will be 10’s of pounds lighter. It will be a day filled with joy and praise because I know I did not get there on my own. There will be more playing with the kids and maybe getting involved in the community. Intimacy in the marriage will improve and the love for this image of God will grow also. I will be able to run and not grow weary: walk and will not faint(Is. 40:13) in Jesus name.

  • Easterann Kea says:

    I really needed this to keep me focus. Im tired. Its is time to make a change, asteadfast change in my health. Ive been blaming my husnsnd for my wieght gain, because i have to cook for him all the unhealthy foods he likes. It is time to stop making excuses and own up to my own weigth weight gain. God i release this false idea i have and i will commit to change. Thank you.

  • Michelle says:

    I first want to say that I am so happy I came across your videos on YouTube, which lead me to your website. 🙂
    My ideal day once I am healthier or rather my ideal me
    will drink water and stretch every morning.
    walk 3 times a week with my kids.
    no longer have a sugar addiction
    no longer be an emotional eater.
    be an example of health to my children and husband.
    feel great
    eat healthy.

  • Anita Clark says:

    I’ve never been any good at tracking. I can only really track things that come out of a packet. Trying to log a meal that has no measurements, like when I cook dinner, is almost impossible. I don’t generally cook from recipes and no one eats set portions so working out, for example, how much of a splash of oil and how much of an unmeasured amount of rice I had out of the whole dish is not really doable. I would love some suggestions on how I could do this. Thanks!

    • Kimberly Taylor says:

      Hi Anita, thank you for your question. You don’t have to get really specific with tracking…being close is good enough. Just becoming aware of what you are doing is the most important thing. So let’s say that you made spaghetti with meat sauce for dinner one night. You aren’t going to track every ingredient that you put in the meat sauce, right? That would drive you (and me) crazy! But instead, if you are using the LoseIt app to track like I do, then you just search for ‘Spaghetti with meat sauce’ and log that in. Or if you don’t see the exact meal, then find something that similar. I do that when I eat at a restaurant.

      If you don’t use an app, then you can still increase awareness of what you are doing with your eating.

      1. Ask yourself: ‘What 7-12 meals does my family eat over and over again?’ Because you do have a pattern as to the meals you are eating. Most of us do. If you don’t know, then you can make it a game to find out. Write down the meals you prepare over the next 2 weeks. Don’t change anything or consider amounts yet. You just need to know what meals/foods you are eating most of the time. It can be as simple as writing down ‘Fried chicken’ or ‘spaghetti with meat sauce.”

      Do that for a couple of weeks. That’s your first step of tracking – just becoming aware of what you are doing.

      2. Examine the list of meals/foods you wrote down. Do you see any foods or meals that appeared on the list more than once? Put a star by those.

      3. The starred meals/foods are your targets. Since that’s what you are eating most often, working on the amounts with those is going to make the most impact to your health/weight. I am curious about this statement: ”No one eats set portions.” In this case, are you saying YOU don’t eat set portions? If you want to change your weight, or you willing to adjust that habit?

      • Anita Clark says:

        I rarely cook the same meal twice so I went through cook books yesterday and picked out around 10 meals to rotate through. I think this will help with tracking each morning. Portion size is not a thing in my household. Hubby is big into fitness and generally eats a massive meal and I have a 12 year old boy who eats a lot. I’m a type 1 diabetic and should monitor my intake but have psychological issues around counting/tracking but I do like the idea of tracking in the morning for the whole day. Thanks for replying!

  • Debra Davise says:

    Wow! This is so true. All those years I was gaining weight, I was running without a track. Having served as a medical flight paramedic, I can tell you first hand that a train off track is a tragedy of epic proportions. What an insightful analogy.

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