Do you Struggle to Follow your Weight Loss Boundaries?
Take Back Your Temple | Christian Weight Loss
Share the Love

Do you Struggle to Follow your Weight Loss Boundaries?

When working on your Christian weight loss goals, it helps to set boundaries for yourself. Why?

A weight loss boundary establishes the territory in which you choose to operate, which includes the behaviors you want to practice and supporting thoughts you want to think.

Many of us think that boundaries limit us, but it’s the opposite!

On my journey to losing 85 pounds over 14 years ago, I discovered that boundaries free you because of the clarity they provide.

In this article, I’ll explain the benefits of boundaries, why you may struggle to follow them, and finally, how to maintain your weight loss boundaries.

The Benefits of Boundaries

When a boundary defines your territory, you eliminate confusion because you set clear expectations for yourself.

Some boundaries you might establish for yourself in weight loss include:

  • Foods that you choose to eat or limit
  • Exercises that you choose to do
  • Ways to manage your internal influences, such as thoughts you’ll accept or reject
  • Ways to manage your external influences, such as social influences and environmental influences

Your Food and Exercise Choices

I use the phrase ‘’choose to’’ deliberately when describing food and exercise behaviors.

‘’Choose to’’ emphasizes freedom of choice.

Many times when we are striving to lose weight, we follow an eating or exercise program that someone else has created.

That may make you feel like you ‘’have to’’ do it – as if someone else is making you do it. That encourages a passive mindset.

However, you need an active engagement mindset to succeed.

Unless you have a personal conviction as to why your plan’s boundaries benefit you and commit to them, you will struggle to maintain them.

So whatever plan you choose, I recommend doing your own research as to why the eating and exercise recommendations fit your values and personal goals.

Mentally rehearse your ”why” regularly, until it moves from a mental assent to a heart conviction.

With a heart conviction, you won’t struggle against boundaries as much. After all, you set them yourself from the beginning!

Your Internal Influences

It’s important to pay attention to your thoughts if you are struggling to maintain your weight loss boundaries.

Your mind is like a garden; unless you focus on thoughts that help you achieve your goal, negative thoughts will take over like weeds.

So monitor your thoughts for distractions. Think of the word ‘’tract,’’ within ‘’distraction’’ as a tract of land you own.

With distractions, you are drawn away from the tract you want to occupy!

Managing your thoughts is critical because it helps you defend your tract.

2 Corinthians 10:5 advises us:

‘’casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,’’

2 Corinthians 10:5

It is smart to define the type of thoughts you will accept or reject in establishing the boundaries of your tract.

The thoughts you’ll want to accept are:

  • Encouraging
  • Solution-oriented
  • Forward focused/vision of the person you want to become

The thoughts you’ll want to reject are:

  • Discouraging/’’might as well quit’’
  • Sabotaging/self-pitying
  • Past focused/mistakes or failures of the past

Your External Influences

Our external influences can play a large part in our actions if we aren’t careful!

In the struggle to maintain your weight loss boundaries, you’ll need to manage your social and environmental influences as much as possible to stay on your tract.

Regarding social influence, we tend to become like the people we associate with most.

So you want to ensure that you include health-oriented people in your circle. In that way, you can encourage and support one another to reaching your goal.

However, if you have friends or family who are tempting you to go back to old habits on your weight loss journey, then you’ll need to set boundaries with them.

Ask for their support to keep tempting foods out of your sight if they buy them. At the same time, be prepared if you don’t receive the support you’d like from them.

Pray for them to have their own health revelation and for the Lord to give you strength to resist the negative influences.

Regarding environmental influences, we also tend to act on what we see. With that in mind, keep the things you want to do, close to you. Keep the things you don’t want to do far away from you.

That will make it easier to stay on your tract.

Why you Struggle with Weight Loss Boundaries

The definition of struggle is ‘’violent efforts to get free of bondage or restraint.’’

So you are struggling to free yourself from the bondage of negative habits. Naturally, your old nature is going to resist efforts to change.

However, being aware of the stages of change can help you stay encouraged during your change transition.

Here are the 4 stages of change:

Stage 1 – Unconsciously Incompetent: You are practicing a negative behavior and you do it automatically without thinking about it.

Stage 2 – Consciously Incompetent: You are practicing a negative behavior, but you are aware that it’s not good. You may or may not want to change.

Stage 3 – Consciously Competent: You are making changes to a positive behavior, but you have to really think about it to practice it. This is where the struggle is and where you are re-wiring your brain.

You re-wire your brain through repeated behaviors.

That’s why change can feel weird and uncomfortable. You may think ‘’this doesn’t feel like me.’’ However, the ‘’me’’ you are identifying with is the old you, not the new you.

Stage 3 is also the longest stage of change – your brain has to change to support the new behavior(s) you want to practice.

Many people quit in Stage 3 because it feels uncomfortable to learn a new way of thinking and acting, plus they grow impatient with the process. However, perseverance and patience are the skills you need to gain the prize.

Stage 4 – Unconsciously Competent: You are practicing the positive behavior automatically and now it feels like “you’. This is the prize that awaits you if you persevere during Stage 3.

Keep on practicing and you will get there.

Making it Easier to Maintain your Weight Loss Boundaries

You’ve likely been on a weight loss program before and ‘’something’’ happened to take you off your tract.

Since you’ve already paid for that experience, you might as well use it!

I recommend writing down your past experiences and any situations that have distracted you. Ask the Lord in prayer to give you wisdom as to what to do if that situation occurs again.

Here is a quick example. I know that I have struggled most when I’ve had a busy day and did not plan well.

So here are some things I did to help myself manage those situations:

  • Keep a fruit bowl stocked with apples, pears, oranges, or bananas so I can grab a healthy snack when hungry. Fruit is the ultimate fast food!
  • Batch cook meals on Saturdays and put them in the freezer so I can take out and reheat during the week. I also love putting the ingredients for soups and stews in the crockpot at the beginning of my workday. Voila! Dinner is ready by the end of the day.
  • Use a phone app to track my eating and exercise daily to help me see when I am getting off tract/track immediately and can make adjustments as needed.

I hope you see from this article that you aren’t alone in struggling to maintain your weight loss boundaries.

But the struggle is lessened when you ‘’own’’ the tract that your boundary defines.

Ensure that you have your own conviction as to why health/weight loss is important to you and establish your commitment to your plan.

One of my favorite quotes about commitment is by author Darren Hardy:

‘’Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.’’

– Darren Hardy

In addition, recognize that there are 4 stages of change. Struggle exists in Stage 3 out of the 4 stages. So if you persevere through Stage 3, you will eventually get to Stage 4.

Stage 4 is where maintaining your boundaries happens automatically because your brain has been re-wired through the repeated practice you’ll do in Stage 3. Now, your new behaviors become ‘’That’s just who I am.’’

May the Lord continue to strengthen you through the struggle of maintaining your weight loss boundaries!

Be blessed in health, healing and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor

Author of the Take Back Your Temple program

P.S. When it comes to weight loss, do you often know what you should do but have a hard time doing it?

I struggled with this issue on my own weight loss journey to losing 85 pounds. But I discovered that you can win the Spiritual and mental battle that can make you inconsistent and lose motivation on your weight loss journey.

I developed the Take Back Your Temple program to show you how you can win the battle too.

Click here to learn more about the Take Back Your Temple program

  • Verena says:

    In my early thirties I decided to join Overeaters Anonymous. So, for me, as I was becoming a passionate follower of Jesus Christ, I thought I would have great success. It was hard starting because I had to obstinate from eating sugar, flour, and in between eating during the 3 meals.

    I was an emotional eater, I became brutally honest with answering questions and reporting my answers to my sponsor. I lost 100 lbs in 10 months, and for the first time I maintained my weight loss for one year. The only thing I stopped doing was my daily exercise for two months. I gained 20 lbs. Never did I think of returning to the problem or giving it to the Lord for Him to help me. I ended up weighing 315 lbs from 130 lbs. I was really angry at myself.

    I can remember the Lord asking me (now remember, food was an idol to me), “Do you mean to tell me that food can do for you what I can’t?” Oh boy! I didn’t realize I was doing that. But I was. I’m going to be 63 yrs young in March and I now weigh 240 lbs. It’s taken me six years to lose that, and it has stayed off . I’ve given my problem to the Lord and now I’m in no hurry. I have a lot of health issues due to what I eat and not being very active.

    God is soooo good. In the beginning, I didn’t realize I subscribed to a weight loss ministry. I have to say, “I’m sure glad I did.” God is using your ministry to help me out with other issues as well.

    I’m so glad I accidentally bumped into you. And I now realize I can only do this with the Lord’s help as well as with fellow believers as my spiritual help. I am not able to do this alone.

    Blessings and victory in the Lord to all,

    Verena L.

    • Kimberly Taylor says:

      Wow – thank you for that testimony, Verena! What a convicting question you heard from the Lord: “Do you mean to tell me that food can do for you what I can’t?” Your question made me think about a quote I just read from a Bible study I wrote called ‘Rivers of Living Water’. Here is the excerpt:

      Jeremiah 2:13 tells us:

      “For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, And hewn themselves cisterns—broken cisterns that can hold no water.” Food is one of those broken cisterns.

      We must be diligent to seek after God because He is the only one who can satisfies our souls. Not a a job, a business, money, a relationship, entertainment, clothes, shoes, houses, cars, and certainly not food.

      I praise God that you are discovering Him who satisfies your soul. May He continue to bless you as you journey with Him day by day!

      • Genora says:

        Your teaching is wonderful! Thank you so very much.

      • Cheryl Palmer says:

        Thank you so very much Kim. Praise be to the Lord for this message came right when I need it most. I must be at stage 3. I saw so much of what I’m presently struggling with.I’m going to keep praying for strength to persevere. I’ve lost some weight ( right at 15 pounds)and was getting in shape with about 14 to 16 more pounds to lose. Have been doing weight watchers freestyle and reading your messages.I have been at a plateau and suddenly just wanting to quit. I’ve not been tracking my food and finding (whoa is me/ pity party)excuses to buy and eat all the junk food ,I thought I had left behind. My weight is tooting for sure.In other words I was giving up before I really even got started which seems to be a terrible pattern for me. My prayer has been to make a new lifestyle in the way of healthier eating, stop procrastinating in everything and learn to like and incorporate some daily exercise instead of the hit and miss extreme all or none.Above all I want to put the Lord first , continue in his word to draw strength and guidance . Thank you . I know I can do all things through Christ that he would have me too. My struggle has always been with food and procrastination. I have been praying and so thankful he guided me to your message. Even with all this being said ,I can’t help but wonder if part of this struggle is that he wants me to be fully dependent on him guiding me rather than seeking other methods such as weight watchers or any other. I know I cannot change myself but I need to fully commit to him not just in words such as I surrender all but truly mean it in my actions too.Thank you for your ministry. Cheryl

    • Marykim says:

      Dear Verena, I so relate to your testimony. Mine is very similar. Thank you for sharing. It was exactly what I needed this morning!

    • Mary Joy says:

      Hi Verena
      I appreciate your comment. I too! followed Overeaters Anonymous I had a tough time with the 3 meals a day nothing in between. I still like to have a snack but try to keep it healthy. We are all on a journey each one different but a progress! God Bless and keep on keeping on

  • Robyn says:

    Thank you so much Kim. Great blog! I need to see the stages of change. I have been struggling and You and Jesus are having me refocus. Blessings!

  • >