How to Eliminate “All or Nothing” Thinking
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How to Eliminate “All or Nothing” Thinking

Woman fellOn Sunday, I messed up with my eating.

My husband, Mike and I were driving home from church and I was hungry. Now usually, I will put an apple or banana in my purse so that I can eat it on the way home.

From experience, I’ve learned that I’m tempted to get fast food when I’m hungry during those times. Fast food is quick and I typically don’t feel like cooking much after serving at church.

So here I was after church without my normal backup plan. Visions of crispy, fried chicken danced in my head.

I usually put our main course in the crockpot before church so that it is ready by the time we get home.

But I didn’t do that either.

I told Mike that I wanted to go get the fried chicken. So we drove to the fast food place. We got the biscuits and the sides too. It was all delicious.

Now someone might say, “But Kim, you failed! That wasn’t healthy at all. Why don’t you just give up on living a healthy lifestyle? Just quit and live off fried chicken and biscuits forever!”

Actually, that “someone” would have been me back in the day. I had a bad case of “all or nothing” thinking.

Let me explain.

When a typical person decides to lose weight, they usually try to overhaul everything all at once. They do well for a couple of weeks on the new plan, but then they make a mistake, not doing things exactly according to plan.

Since they did not do everything perfectly, they discourage themselves and quit.

That’s how I used to be. I would turn a slip into a slide! The slide meant going all the way back to the same old habits that made me gain weight at the beginning.

In hindsight, that made about as much sense as slipping on the stairs and deciding to throw yourself down the rest of them!

When it comes to weight loss, perfection is not your goal; commitment is.

Commitment is required to stay the course until you obtain the results you want. You learn from your mistakes along the journey and use them to propel you forward.

Check out the following calendar below that represents how the days might go for someone on a weight loss plan. The green days illustrate when they did most things right and the yellow days illustrate when they did most things wrong:


If you look at the above month, would you say that the person had a successful month? Most of us would say “Yes” because the person had more right days than wrong days.

However, someone with an “all or nothing” mentality would say “No.”

Why? Because they focus only on the mistakes the person made.

They fail to consider that as long as the person has more right days than wrong days, time is working on that person’s side!

Given enough “right” months, the person will succeed eventually.

I finally succeeded with weight loss when I took the option to quit off the table. I decided that I was determined to reach my ideal weight – giving the process the time it needed to complete.

I realized that if I had more right days than wrong days, I was going to win in the end.

Now that I’ve reached my goal, I take mistakes in stride. That particular Sunday was just another day in my life. In terms of my health choices, it wasn’t my best day. But it certainly wasn’t my worst!

My philosophy is that you can eat any food you want, but there is a proper time for it. For me, that fast food outing wasn’t the proper time.

Within each day are opportunities to learn from your successes and your mistakes. The key is – learn the lesson and move forward because you will have another day to make adjustments, God willing.

For me, that means packing a piece of fruit in my purse and deciding on a plan for Sunday dinner ahead of time.  I will give myself plenty of time Sunday morning to prepare what we need for dinner.

Good planning will always beat great intentions!

An African Proverb says, “Don’t look where you fell. Look where you slipped.” My slip was in not giving myself enough time to plan and execute my “after church” strategy.

The point is – an “all or nothing” mentality just makes you want to quit when challenges occur. Let’s face it: Challenges will always happen.

But when they do, do not quit. Quitting is the 100% way that you won’t receive that for which you are believing. Say this with me: “As long as I don’t give up on myself, I will never fail!”

This is your life and you can go through it as you choose. The Lord says in Deuteronomy 30:19-20:

I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live; that you may love the Lord your God, that you may obey His voice, and that you may cling to Him, for He is your life and the length of your days…”

I choose life and blessing. How about you?

You may stumble on the path of life. Give yourself grace for mistakes. Commit to correcting them, being patient with yourself. But keep moving forward.

That is the surefire way to ultimate success!

Be blessed in health, healing and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor

Creator of the Take Back Your Temple program

P.S. Have you ever fallen into the trap of thinking that your past equals your future? Nothing could be further from the truth.

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  • Molly says:

    Thank you for the encouragement and being real!
    I added, “When it comes to weight loss, perfection is not your goal commitment is” to my journal. The entry just above that was, “Blessed to be all in.”
    Those two quotes seemed to contradict each other but the more I thought it through they don’t. They balance each other out.
    My goal is to be all in with healthy eating and not letting food be an idol in my life. On occasion,as recently, when I do mess up I look back and see how, when and why I slipped up.
    Time to dust myself off and move forward!

  • Susan says:

    Your article make so sense to me, a slip doesn’t have to end in a slide. It’s the mindset that most of us have lived with through out our lives. Weight loss commercials and society’s has fed the skinny message, Instant gratification that says eat what you want then join a grp to take off the weight. So thankful that the Lord got my attention through TBYT. I thank the Lord for using Kim Taylor to teach us the Lords way not ours.

  • Paula - Marie says:

    Oops… I hit SEND in error. As I was saying above, it’s Sooooo embarrassing to lose significant amts. Of weight only to regain it ALL back Multiple times! ! However, after reading your post, I think I’ve found another fight in me to keep trying. Thanks again, you are a tremendous blessing!

  • Paula - Marie says:

    Kim, ONLY God knows how badly I needed to hear this! I’M SOOOOOOOOO TIRED OF THIS WEIGHT BATTLE! ! I’D just about given up. It’s extremely embarrassing to lose significant amount of weight

  • Brenda says:

    It reminds me that a toddler does not learn to walk in one day….it is a process of commitment, desiring to get to the next place. Like a toddler, we need to keep our eyes on where we want to be…(in our case, our goal weight)
    This was a very encouraging word to keep on keeping on.
    Thank you.

  • Cynthia says:

    This was an excellent reminder! Thank you.

  • Karen Demers says:

    Thank you Kim ,your words of encouragement helped me change the way I think , I feel good about many decisions I’ve made following your examples, your strategys and bring it to prayer has changed my life, I’m more free to make choices like never before, and not felling I’m a failure, rather I’m doing good looking at how I feel about my choice of foods. Blessing to you and to the calling on your life.

    • Praise God, Karen! I am so thankful that you are on this journey with me to grow in the things of God through this weight loss challenge. May He continue to bless you abundantly.

  • Kathy says:

    Thank you Kim for sharing the things you have learned with us. It is always a blessing. I appreciate you and your encouraging words.

  • Gwen says:

    This made me cry; I am going through this the last few weeks beating myself up because I slipped a day or two or I do well until I eat something unhealthy. Kimberly that you for giving me courage to not just give up. God’s Blessings

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