Ministering to a Hard Heart (Prayer)

The only thing strong enough to soften a hard heart is the blood of Jesus.

The only thing strong enough to soften a hard heart is the blood of Jesus.

 

I attended a conference on healing and deliverance recently and one of the things I saw is how the enemy uses a person’s wounding and past hurts to persuade them to harden their hearts.

Like a person who is injured physically and develops a scab at that place of hurt eventually, so the same thing can happen to your heart.

The enemy can convince you that hardening your heart is necessary to protect you from further hurt.

If a person has a hard heart, they won’t believe God’s love. Believing God’s love puts them in a position of vulnerability and humility, which scares them.

They also won’t receive God’s word because it can’t penetrate through a hard heart. Or if it does, the Word won’t go very deep!

God’s word must be able to  penetrate the heart and grow in order to produce the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (see Galatians 5:22-23).

Here is another sobering thought: A person can even try to minister to others from a hard heart! But love won’t motivate their service. They will serve out of legalism, duty, obligation, and drudgery. It is obvious they do not find joy in their service either.

The Lord gave me this Word on this subject:

Unless you allow the Lord to heal your heart, you will never grow past the place of your wounding.”

The only thing I know that is strong enough to soften a hard heart is the blood of Jesus.

Here are some truths about Jesus that can help soften the hard heart – if the person will believe. I also included my prayer for a person suffering from a hard heart below.

Know this:

  • Jesus suffered.
  • Jesus was wounded.
  • Jesus was abused.
  • Jesus was battered.
  • Jesus was rejected.
  • Jesus was lied on and talked about.
  • Jesus was insulted and verbally abused.
  • Jesus had to endure poverty.

There is nothing that any of us has suffered that Jesus did not go through already.

Consider this: Jesus took on the sins of the whole world at the cross, from the beginning of time, all through the ages.

That means Jesus had to bear the sins of:

  • Murderers
  • Adulterers
  • Fornicators
  • Homosexuals
  • Rapists
  • Child molesters/Pedophiles
  • Abusers
  • Thieves
  • Liars
  • Gossipers
  • Slanderers

In fact, every perversion and evil that mankind has committed throughout history, Jesus bore it.

Nobody’s sin was left out.

Jesus bore the sins of the person who hurt you. Jesus bore your sins as well.

Jesus had to take all the filthiness of sin on Him at the cross even though He never sinned.

Jesus did that to restore mankind’s relationship with the Father. The Father had decreed the penalty for sin was death. Jesus paid the death price for all of us because He loved us that much.

Jesus has suffered as we have, but we have NOT suffered as He has!

Jesus died and took all that sin with Him into the grave. But praise God, Jesus gained the victory over sin, conquered death, and came up out of the grave! He rose again on the third day so that we can have a new life in Him.

He did this because He loves us. Not because we are good but because He is good.

Neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (see Romans 8:38-39).”

We who believe in our hearts and confess with our mouths that Jesus is the Son of God and was raised on the third day shall be saved because we trade our sin for His righteousness.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

He gives us beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness so we may be the planting of the Lord and He may be glorified.

abandoned_lot_by_auriam-d34pcj0To summarize, a hard-hearted person is like an abandoned concrete lot.

Nothing much will grow there and what does grow is malnourished, weak, and sickly.

In order for anything to grow, the concrete must be broken up, the chunks removed, new soil brought in, and good seeds planted.

So my prayer for a hard-hearted person is from Ezekiel 36:26:

May my sister or brother receive a new heart and a new spirit within them; May the Lord take the heart of stone out of their flesh and give them a heart of flesh so that they may receive the full measure of the Father’s love for them.

I command any evil spirits deceiving them into thinking that a hard heart is necessary for their safety and protection to come up and come out in the name of Jesus.

The Lord is their rock and their fortress and their deliverer; My God, their strength, in whom they will trust; their shield and the horn of their salvation, their stronghold.

Spirits of shame, depression, anger, pride, woundedness, unforgiveness, fear, rejection, poverty, hurt and anything else in their souls and bodies that the Father did not plant, I uproot you through the power of our Father’s word in the name of Jesus!

Spirit of trauma, I command you to come out and loose them in the name of Jesus. They have been set free to grieve for their losses and to allow proper expression of them in their Savior’s loving arms. They are free to walk in freedom and to dance in praise to the Lord!

I see a new picture of them as dancing before the Lord, face radiant with joy, arms open wide rather than crossed, completely free to receive.

Let them declare according to Psalm 30:11-12:

“You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
You have put off my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness,
To the end that my glory may sing praise to You and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give thanks to You forever.”

Garden

The Lord is glorified when His people are well-watered gardens, trees of righteousness, full of fruit.

His Word is good seed; his Holy Spirit is our water that brings times of refreshing in His presence.

As well-watered gardens with abundant fruit, others can come, taste and see that the Lord is good!

Be blessed in health, healing, and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor

Creator of the Take Back Your Temple program

P.S. When it comes to knowing the enemy’s devices against us, Christians can’t afford ignorance. Many times, he traps Christians in engaging in destructive behavior like overeating, which can lead to excess weight.

Click here to learn about the Take Back Your Temple program.

If you have negative thoughts and habits that are keeping you in bondage, you must know how to overcome them to reach your best weight and fulfill your God-given purpose:

Click here to learn about the Take Back Your Temple program.

  • Sherri says:

    I really enjoyed this devotional. I needed it

  • Lorraine says:

    Kimberly, I LOVED your “controversial video” !!!! You covered a lot of truth in there. Great job!

    Regarding your message above and heartened hearts, I’ve worked with a ministry for years (Healing Hearts Ministries) that does a great job helping those who need healing from past hurts. I found the online bible study years ago and it walked me through scriptures that helped to tenderize my heart to forgive my offenders. Since leading the study at my church, I can clearly see how easy it is to fall in the trap of being a victim instead of walking in victory. For me I had become angry with God thinking He had not heard my prayers, but looking back with a different perspective can clearly see Gods love for me, and that the problem is sin, and how mankind will act when apart from God.

    A lot of your message above reminded me of what I learned in that study of Gods word, and I’m so thanful to have been set free from bitterness to a renewed trust in the Lord.

    I’m still working on trusting Him fully with the eating thing, and I’m going to have to go listen to your “controversial video again” because I’m so ready to walk in victory over this food (sin) issue!!

    I’m truly thankful for the Lord giving you the persistence to to share this message of hope. After trying and trying to get this right, I think I’m finally hearing!!!

    With love,
    Lorraine

    • Wonderful, Lorraine! I am glad you found the video helpful. The Lord always meets us where we are. I thank Him that even though we may leave Him, He never leaves nor forsakes us. He is committed to completing the good work He has already started in you. May He continue to bless you richly on this journey!

  • Tiffany Wallace says:

    I so needed this devotional on softening a hardened heart. Thank you for letting God use you to help others! I am dealing with this and what you said just lit the lightbulb! I’m using a hardened heart to protect me from hurt. But only Gods love can heal! Please pray for me in this area and God bless you and your ministry.

  • Misha Wesley says:

    I read your article that you wrote about in charisma Magazine and i have to say that it was one of the best articles that they PUBLISHED! it truly made me cry, not because I have a hard heart but because I have ministered to my husband that has a hard heart and I tell you it’s no easy road. I love my husband and want him to see the love of Christ, so I allow Christ’s love to radiant through me and allow my actions to show forth and speak of his greatness. I just loved the words you wrote and it was a eye opening read. I tell you that God has given my husband a heart of flesh as a result of my endless prayers and relentless love towards him. Thanks so much for writing this with your heart and allowing Holy Spirit to speak through you! amen

    • Thank you so much, Misha! Yours is a testimony of a virtuous woman. You stood in the gap for your husband and prevailed! Your husband truly found a good thing in you and receives favor from the Lord because of it. Thank you for writing!

  • Teresa ferguson says:

    My heart has been hard, like the empty concrete lot you discribed. Thank you for your article. Thank you for your prayer. During the holidays my mind reverts to the past, and the distruction creeps back. But your article has opened my eyes. Jesus, free me from the pains that haunt me. Jesus, free me from my hard heart. Because of Jesus, I am free indeed.

    Thank you. God bless.

  • Rhapsody says:

    I really really enjoyed reading this this evening. It was everything my soul needed to hear. I was just wondering was it possible to be delivered from a person that always hurts me without hate and bitterness growing in me…the answer is yes. There is nothing to hard for God. I will not give this situation domain over me..I speak life and healing in my mind and in my heart. I have written the bible verse down and I will read and continue to read and let the word grow in me so I can become what God sees me as. I thank God for you and if at all possible call my name out to God and ask him to help me in my situation. God bless you always..Rhapsody Burgess

  • Amber says:

    Kimberly, dear sister in Christ! I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for your wonderful ministry and allowing God to use you! I have been receiving your emails for a few years now and always so appreciate the encouragement and Spirit led wisdom! This prayer is so beautiful and Bible-saturated. This article is also an excellent reminder to me that even as Christians, when we aren’t careful, bitterness and hardness of heart can so easily creep in from all the hurts and pains of this sin-fallen world! It is so important to be aware and keep continually seeking and coming to God and not turning to other things instead. As it’s insidiously easy to slowly stray away from Him! I have heard it said and found it to be incredibly true that we are never staying in the same place – We are always either growing closer to God or we are slipping away. Thank you for the reminder to always keep actively pursuing Him for only He can meet all our needs and heal our wounds and broken aching hearts!
    I pray you and your husband are blessed and well and that God meets all your needs according to His riches in glory!
    In His love and light,
    ~ Amber 🙂

  • Jenny Rose says:

    I am hurting badly, and so is whole family. My husband and I are going through a divorce. It should be finalized in August sometime. I do not want the divorce. My husband and I have both partook of sin in the marriage abd he is unwilling to see that I am a Christian and wants to blame and shame me and demands i repent and admit Im not a believer to prive that I am the problem. I have listened to him and prayed for forgiveness but he refuses to forgive and apologize. Im so confused as to what Gods will is since there’s been adultery on both parties side. Im hurt and want to restore the marriage. I was a Christian from the start and he was definitely not. I was living in sin with him briefly then we eloped and had a daughter. He left at the start of the pregnancy. I had two children prior to our marriage. Now he says he’s a Christian and in a church that is all Calvanist and they are wanting me to convert and repent their way to prove Im worthy of the reconciliation. I’m heartbroken. Im trusting God that His will will be done for my family. It’s been so broken. Now they won’t let hm reconcile for fear of him being not on the right course of action or whatever. I need help. Please pray. I am trying to let go and let God, but it’s so hard. Pls pray that ALL of oyr hearts are opened, softened, and restored like never before and that the kids are safe, in Jesus name amen. . Bless you. Ps I want t to be an immense beacon of love, change, and hope for those wo struggle with this in Jesus name Amen! Thanks

  • john says:

    Thanks! I needed to read this…helps me know how to pray for my spouse.
    John

  • Marsha says:

    I told God awful thing that i did not need him or holy spirit anymore cuz people accept me and love me and then atmfter thatI was hurt by God cause heard a voice speak to me that said followed for wrong reason and reading bible won’t help you and then my heart God hardened, then I began to think Hebrew 6 happen to me after this so then I went to a church and the prophet said God is with you do you want to return if so repent and believe but something was blocking heart not realizing at moment I was believing wrong scripture either way I then thought missed opportunity to repent and believed that bit in all actuality I do and did want to return please and after that heart was hardened and I really want the Lord back and my mind not to be like a reprobate and have this hardened heart and I losing hope and faith that can’t come back or he is done with me I don’t what else to do. Marsha

  • Bobby Roger says:

    Hi Kimberly. I have just written a book on the process of hardening a heart toward God. The picture of the hardened heart with your article would be perfect for the cover of my book. Can I have permission to use it. I am a pastor and will be self- publishing this book. It would be a miracle of God to sell more than a 100 books or so. I think it is invaluable reading; but since I am an unknown author, the Lord would have to truly intervene for sales to go up. Thank you for taking a moment to respond to this.

  • Janeen Lawson says:

    Kimberly, again you have blessed me. Thank you for your ministry.

  • I enjoyed reading the truth about the word of God and it definitely applyed to me at the present time . Please pray for me and my family. I have a Son name Joseph that in prison. Please pray for him . I need reunification in my families life and my fiance family as well. Just to say reading this lift me up in spirit and Truth …..

  • Thank you for this spiritual awakening

  • Sanya K says:

    Hi i have had a hardened heart for sometime and Ive prayed about it with the prayer from ezekiel. I feel like im not right with God until I do something but I know in my heart it is only through Jesus. I have been repenting and confessing His name and asking for his love to penetrate my heart but nothing….i need help. Now I even feel nothingness….after a deliverance session….. I feel a war inside, then fear, then nothingness.

    • Hi Sanya – I join you in prayer. Here’s one truth to take to heart: Just because you feel something doesn’t make it true. You said: “I feel like I’m not right with God until I do something but I know in my heart it is only through Jesus.” You said you feel that you aren’t right with God unless you do something. Well, if you know Jesus as your Savior, He already did something! He did the work of making you right with God through His crucifixion and resurrection from the dead.

      All you need to do is what Romans 10:9-10 says: “that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”

      If you did that, you ARE right with God whether you feel like it or not. You are right with Him because His word says so.

      You also said – “I have been repenting and confessing His name and asking for his love to penetrate my heart but nothing…I need help. Now I even feel nothingness…after a deliverance session….. I feel a war inside, then fear, then nothingness.”

      It seems you keep looking for a certain feeling as evidence that God loves you. Check out this article for the truth: https://www.takebackyourtemple.com/dont-feel-god-loves-me/

      As you renew your mind to this truth and make your daily decisions based on this truth, not how you feel, then you will experience freedom in Christ!

  • Sanya K says:

    Hi thanx for the response I think im basing my faith on feelings. Thankyou for showing me. I even think i committed the unpardonable sin because I told God I felt hateful feelings towards him in my heart. I will read the article.

    • Many years ago, I was in a painful place and said “I hate you” to God. The Lord knew I was speaking out of pain and confusion. I am certainly glad I didn’t really mean it. However, it was NOT the unpardonable sin (blasphemy against the Holy Spirit). Here is a link about what that means: https://www.gotquestions.org/blasphemy-Holy-Spirit.html.

      • Sanya K says:

        Hello I feel like ill keep coming back to you. That day I confessed to God I had hateful feelings I felt a thing leave my chest, and the negative thoughts stopped. I had given up and thought Im lost and then today as I decided to turn back before it was too late, its like the heaviness came back and negative thoughts and prideful thoughts came bubbling over. Is this in me or what? As soon as I start professing my love for Jesus its like a war starts. Now I know its not in my heart but my chest where the heaviness is.

  • Sanya K says:

    Thankyou so much.

  • Teanna says:

    Thank you so much for this timely word, Kimberly. Your message has helped me and my grandmother to identify and break generational curses! Keep being a light and a vessel.

  • Shannon thomsen says:

    This spoke to me in many ways. Early this morning I confessed that I have a hard heart. Then I found this. It shows I’m on the right track. I suffer much trauma from sexual abuse at the hands of my own dad and uncle. I didn’t know I was so angry about it but as I write this I realized I’m very angry with God. Angry with my parents who no longer live. God took my mom home and I ask him to please bring me home because at times I feel like I can’t go on. I over eat. I’m confused of what eating plan to follow.

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