My Problem with Overeaters Anonymous

Overeaters Anonymous

“How you see yourself determines what you do.”

I don’t remember where I read this quote, but it sums up a problem I have with Overeaters Anonymous (OA).

Why am I writing about OA? I’ve received emails from readers asking me what I think about the program.

While I am sure the program helps some people, it did not help me when I was a member.

Now I know why.

It violates a key Biblical principle at its core. Let me explain.

Many years ago, I participated in Overeaters Anonymous for a while – before I became a believer in Christ.

Each meeting I had to stand up and say, “I’m Kim and I am a Compulsive Overeater.” It was fine at first, but then I started to become depressed. Then I also noticed something:

In my group were women who had been attending the meetings for 12, 9, 7 years – and they didn’t appear to have any healthier relationship with food than I did.

Instead, they were obsessed with food in the opposite direction – overly restrictive, bordering on anorexia.

I asked myself, “Where is the victory, the peace, the praise?” I could not see myself still attending meetings for 10 years, but not getting anywhere.

So I quit going.

Now I know the problem was one of identity.

You see, the Bible says that our God is one who calls those things that do not exist as though they did (see Romans 4:17). He declares the end of a thing from the beginning (Isaiah 46:10).

So by continuing to confess myself as a “Compulsive Overeater,” all I was doing was reinforcing that oppressed identity in my mind.

Confession means “to say the same.” In confessing myself as a compulsive overeater, with whom was I agreeing? The Lord or the enemy?

Even when I wasn’t bingeing on food, this identity made me fearful of a relapse.

That was bondage – not the freedom that Jesus promises.

Now I know that since God declares the end of a thing from the beginning, the Biblical way of confession would be to say what God says: “I’m Kim and I’m a RECOVERED overeater.”

So the Lord sees us as complete in Christ, regardless of our current behavior. As we learn to see ourselves through His eyes and through the Holy Spirit working within us, our character becomes conformed to the image of Jesus over time.

God exists in Eternity, so time does not limit Him as it limits us. The Lord can see all of our days before one of them comes to be (Psalm 139:16).

One of my favorite scriptures is Jeremiah 29:11:

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

I see the Bible as full of the Lord’s promises for His people. Isn’t it wonderful that the Creator of the universe wants us to have a personal relationship with Him?

If we believe Him, His word has the power to set us free.

My freedom came when I took that step of belief, anchored myself in Jesus and renewed my mind to His Word.

Today, I don’t live in fear of a relapse and I can eat any food I want.

Each person ultimately has to make the decision as to how they will live. I chose to put my trust in the Lord to deliver me from compulsive overeating back in 2003.

Today, I am overjoyed to say that my trust was rewarded!

Be blessed in health, healing, and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor
Creator of the Take Back Your Temple program

P.S. I receive many emails from people dealing with emotional and binge eating issues. I once received an email from a lady who saw a video about my weight loss success story and she wrote, “I wish I could achieve the victory that you have.”

I wrote her back and said, “You can with God’s help. What are you afraid of?”

She wrote me back a long letter about her fears and one sentence she wrote is the most honest, raw description of what drives binge eating behavior:

“I am afraid when I quit eating to numb myself, I will experience the full harshness of reality and it will be too overpowering…”

That’s exactly how I felt when I practiced binge eating behavior! But the good news is that you don’t have to keep using food as emotional “Novocaine.”

I have an online course ‘How to Stop Binge Eating‘ that provides specialized help with this issue.

The course has had over 1,100 enrollees, with a 4.9 rating out of 5.0. You owe it to yourself to check it out:

Click here to review the ‘How to Stop Binge Eating’ Online course

 

  • Holly says:

    I went to OA one time and left depressed, never to return again. The rules were that an attendee couldn’t even speak until she had been “abstinate” for three months. Meaning not overeating for three months. Had that been the case, I would have been totally thin at that point and wouldn’t have had the problem which brought me there in the first place which was of course, overeating. It was an atrocious experience.

    Thanks for the biblical wisdom and insight, Kimberly!

  • Joy says:

    Thank you Kimberly!

    I have been always wondering why for yrs, I struggled with overeating. I too went to OA and said, at every meeting I am a compulsive overeater! Thanks! to your article on OA I now will say, I am Joy! a recovering overeater! There is a freedom now just reading and hearing it in my spirit. I would like to get the take back your temple program when i am able.
    Thanks! again Kimberly for the encouraging and uplifting articles you bless us with. I am also! a recovering bulimic as well!

    Joy.

    • James says:

      I think you missed the point…why to say you are an overeater at all? As a man thinks in his heart so is he (Proverbs)….Just because you overeat that doesnt make you an overeater…You can change what you do but not who you are… but in Genesis God looked at all His creation and called it GOOD.

      The Bible says let the weak say “I am strong”. As you declare in faith you areeing with God what He says about you and you are creating your own reality. You will believe your own words more thanbody else’s.

    • Mary Joy says:

      Thank you Kimberly for your article on OA. I too!
      attended again and again and again. I felt guilty I could not do that nothing on between. I also said! I am Mary joy and a compulsive overeater. I like “my name is Mary Joy and I am a Recovering overeater and Balimic.
      Thank you Joy! for your openness and honesty!
      The Lord! has completely! healed me if Balimia and I am recovery from emotional overeating one day at a time! I thank Jesus! for taking that upon Himself on the cross. This is an Awt! Site and we! are all here supporting! One another! Thank you! Kimberly for your encouraging! and uplifting articles you send us from “Take Back Your Temple”
      Mary Joy

  • Derrick Crandell says:

    I went to meetings for about three months. One lady had reach her goal and everyone else was just like me. To much doom and gloom. So very thankful that God led me to TBYT.

  • Mary says:

    Right on! I too went to OA meetings for several years and finally realized it was demeaning and was not helping me.

  • Denise says:

    Having to identify myself in that way made me feel hopeless about my problem. I went for 6 weeks and felt better when I stopped going.

  • Melody says:

    Thank you for this. I had no idea thast OA was like that! I had considered going to an OA meeting, but there were none that fgit my schedule. I sure am glad I did not go! Kimberly, what do you think of Weight Watchers?

  • Sue says:

    I went to OA for years as a Christian but there were few recovered. The reason was, for me, I was not totally relying of God. I was still trying to control my disease. After finding a phone meeting of recovered, many Christian and Jew, I had a recovered sponsor who guided me through the Alcoholics Anonymous following exactly what the book said. Of course our recovery depended on me staying in fit spiritual condition. I am now recovered myself and not only have I lost weight, but my whole life has changed. I am so glad I stayed with it until I found recovery. Meetings that only cry and moan about their problem and do not seek the solution that is in that book will never find recovery. The spiritual experience makes all the difference. If you are a sugar and wheat addict that can not put it down, the answer is to give that to God and follow the steps as written. You might find how easy to do it if you do it one day at a time trusting only on God. The steps are very much based on the beatitudes, but a non-Christian wouldn’t recognize it. OA was based on the Oxford Group that was a Christian group. I’m sure I am not the only one who has had much success in OA. Your group is used to support my faith and strengthen my program.
    Love to you.

  • Jen says:

    My experience exactly! That is why I quit and could not go back to another meeting. Calling myself a compulsive overeater each week does go against what God says I am. Yes, I must confess my sins but rehearsing and confessing are two separate things. I have found a much more positive program that helped me and other women I work with. Lose “It” For Life by Stephen Arterburn & Linda Mintle. The concept of community which OA uses does help if facilitated in a positive and supportive way.

  • Cathy says:

    I too spent years in OA. I called it
    Chasing my tail, I working the program sooo hard with total
    Obsession on dieting, failure and feeling like a failure because I could not maintain what the program promised.
    I became depressed, towards the end just before I quit for good I tried calling myself RECOVERED!!! I do not agree with using the word recovered. I say delivered from a demon of food addiction. I now repent and the Holy Spirit has set me free. Who the SON SETS FREE IS FREE INDEED!!!!!
    Oh sweet FREEDOM !!!
    ps: I believe the 12 steps are half truths because they do not proclaim Jesus Christ, a half truth is a lie.

  • Amy says:

    I have never been to an OA meeting. I tend to eat when I am bored. This really hit home as to how I talk to myself. I always say that your words claim what you receive and it never transferred to how I speak about food and my diet. Crazy how it never translated to that. Thank you for the eye opening article.

  • mary lou says:

    Overeaters Anonymous helped me in many ways. First, they don’t insist that you admit you are anything. Second, they encouraged me to find a sponsor to whom I could confess, openly and honestly, what I had eaten that day and what was going on when I did it. 3rd, they encouraged me to eat a good meal that would last till the next one. 4th, they helped me to stop lying to myself about my heart issue: I loved food more than I loved my health, my family, or even my God. I repented. I began to pray with a fellow Christian for help to enjoy food but not to LOVE food. 5th: We had a really crazy communication style in my family. We lied about how we felt so we wouldn’t seem like bad Christians. Overeaters Anonymous helped me stop lying. 6th: When I was upset I could go to a meeting, any day of the week, for free, and speak honestly about how I felt, and listen for solutions. They helped me just say no to Shame. I don’t go now, but it really helped, in its season.

    • Thank you for your perspective, Mary Lou. I’m glad that your group experience was different from mine and did not insist you confess that you were an “Overeater” as your identity.

  • I went to oa for a long time and I lost some weight but the philosophy is very deceptive. I wasn’t allowed to talk about Jesus, only higher power. I found it very upsetting. I is not a good place for a Christian to go to. I found my Christian faith became watered down and mixed with 12 step philosophy and I lost my desire to worship and was confused. I have started doing an online course now called setting captives free-weight loss. I am learning to repent and eat sensibly. I can eat any food now. In oa I was very restricted in what I could eat. I’m glad Jesus is setting me free.

    • Holly says:

      I totally agree, although I only went one time. You couldn’t even talk unless you had been “abstinate” for three months, which in my case would have resulted in a weight loss of all I needed. How can one heal, if one can’t even speak??
      It was worthless!

  • B Stevens says:

    Thank you! I was about to start an OA journey again… This has made me rethink it. But.. OA is Free. Dr’s, these classes, they are not. Junk food it cheap. That is what is so hard. I always turn right back to what is cheap.. because I cannot financially afford the other stuff. Why does getting better, and getting help have to be so expensive? Why does getting healthy? Eating healthy have to be so expensive?….

    • Hi B,

      It is true that some healthy eating choices are expensive…but some are not. Google ‘eating healthy on a budget’ and you will see what your options are. There is a reason why you are thinking about joining OA again…because in your heart, you do not have peace about your eating choices. Lack of peace and joy are very costly. You don’t have to go through life that way.

      You don’t say anything about your personal relationship with God. That is the first thing to address in your life. If you don’t know what I mean, then check this article out: http://www.everystudent.com/features/connecting.html.

      In addition, I have over 500 free articles here on the TBYT site that you can access for a Biblical perspective on health: https://takebackyourtemple.com/blog/

      Sister, I say this with love: As long as you keep telling yourself that you won’t be able to afford to get healthy, then you won’t make the daily choices necessary to get healthy. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, when you tell yourself “I may not have a lot of money but what I have I will invest it in my health. my health is worth it” then you start seeing solutions that you never saw before.

      Sickness, disease, and disability are very costly. By making cheap, but healthy choices you will get better health without breaking the bank. Like I said, if you seek out those options, you will find them. But you have to believe they are there first in order to be willing to look for them.

      God bless you!

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