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Top 10 Reasons Why Women Can Eat Too Much

Having once eaten my way up to 240 pounds and a size 22, I ate for many reasons that had nothing to do with body hunger.

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Eat Too Much

Overeating is becoming even more common in an age of food abundance, advertising, and the addictive properties of man-altered foods.

Although both sexes can struggle with eating too much, I’m gearing this article toward women simply because I’ve heard our stories most often through emails.

Here are the top 10 reasons women eat too much, gleaned from my emails over the 12 years that takebackyourtemple.com has been online.

These reasons are in no particular order:

1. Permissible Self Care

You may feel guilty or that it is selfish to take time for yourself and have become so busy taking care of everyone that you put yourself on the shelf.

So food becomes a way to “rest” and make yourself feel special without feeling guilty – at least temporarily.

2. Emotional Novocaine

Food becomes a way to numb yourself to uncomfortable feelings, such as anger, anxiety, stress, boredom, depression or frustration.

3. The Food is There

Leftovers are calling you from the kitchen or you are over-enthusiastic in “tasting” the food you are preparing.

Before you know it, you’ve grabbed a little bit of this and that until you have consumed the equivalent calories in a meal.

4. Last Supper Eating

If you are a diet veteran, then you are probably very familiar with “Last Supper” eating (also known as “Get while the getting is good”).

You are so accustomed to going on diets that you tell yourself that you better eat up your favorite “goodie” because you won’t be allowed to have it ever again.

5. Relationship Building

Food becomes a way you show love to others. After I got married, I found myself gaining weight. I discovered a simple reason for it.

I had started fixing my portion sizes larger subconsciously.

I was cooking for my husband and preparing his plate as well, matching my portion sizes to his!

He is a big guy and I’m a petite woman, so no wonder I was getting bigger eating as much as he was.

To deal with the issue, I asked him to prepare his own plate or when I prepared his plate, I was careful to fix the portion size appropriate for my size.

6. Something to Do

Eating becomes a habit that you do when you are bored or you use it as a form of procrastination.

You use it as a delaying tactic to avoid an activity that you view as painful, either consciously or unconsciously.

7. Food Insecurity

You may have experienced hunger as a child if your parent had difficulty putting food on the table.

The official name for this one is “food insecurity.”

Deep down, you are afraid of experiencing insecurity from lack of food again, so you overeat as an insurance policy.

8. It’s New and Improved

Food becomes a form of excitement. I experienced this one on vacation last year.

When you travel, do you anticipate eating food you’ve never eaten before (new food) or eating familiar food, but prepared a new way (improved food)?

This can also happen when you attend a new restaurant or want to try a new food item advertised on television.

The fear of scarcity is behind this one: “If I don’t eat it now, I may never get the opportunity to eat it again.”

9. It’s Free

You can be vulnerable to eating too much at church dinners, banquets, family holiday dinners, or eating out on an employer expense account.

Since you are not paying for it, you want to eat as much as you can to take full advantage of the freebie.

10. Bottomless Food Pits

Have you ever had the experience of sitting down to watch T.V. with a bag of buttered popcorn or potato chips in hand, and then found yourself reaching into an empty bag a short while later? If so, then you fell into a bottomless food pit.

It’s keeping a large serving in front of you, eating mindlessly until it is gone.

 

I wrote this article to make you aware of the many environmental cues that can tempt you to eat when you aren’t hungry. In that way, you can seek God’s wisdom as to effective ways to handle them. He promises:

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).”

Which of the top 10 reasons do you struggle with most often? Take a moment to write them all of them down.

Then submit these areas to the Lord in prayer, asking Him to renew your mind. Humble yourself and set your mind on obedience to the Lord so that food will regain its proper place in your life.

Here’s a personal example.

Back when I was a nurse, #1 was a big struggle for me. But I had to realize that I was running on empty. It is like a well of water that keeps pouring out. If there is not a continual source of water to replenish it, then that well will run dry sooner or later!

So whenever I was tired, either mentally, physically, or emotionally, I learned that it was necessary for me to take quiet time for myself.

Otherwise, I’d start to resent the very people I was trying to help and serve, taking on the attitude or a martyr or victim.

I quieted my soul with the familiar words of the 23rd Psalm, verses 1-3:

The Lord is my shepherd;
I shall not want.

He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.

He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake.

Do you need a Word from the Lord to meditate upon so that you can renew your mind in your areas of struggle? Post the scriptures that you are using to renew your mind in that area.

Your change may not happen overnight, but keep meditating on God’s word and keep practicing whatever the Lord teaches you to turn that situation around.

It may not be easy – they don’t call it a “Faith of fight” for nothing.

But if you hang in there and refuse to give up, you are destined to win!

Be blessed with health, healing, and wholeness,

Kimberly Taylor
Creator of the ‘Take Back Your Temple’ Program

P.S. If you are tired of trying diet after diet, losing the weight, but gaining it all back then the Take Back Your Temple program is your solution. You strengthen your faith and lose the weight.

While diets can give you information about how to eat, they can’t give you the wisdom nor power to destroy the mental strongholds that are holding you back. Only a relationship with God and renewing your mind to His word can do that.

Click the link below to learn more:

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  • JoAnn Cannon says:

    I eat for 8 of the 10 reasons why people overeat. I experienced overeating 3 times this past week and I feel awful. Plus I have severe acid reflux disease which means when I overeat I cannot sleep at night. The interesting thing is that I started exercising this week consistently, went outside walking which I haven’t done in at least a year and it felt fantastic. Now to exercise and eat healthy at the same time is my commitment starting now!

  • Connie Simpson says:

    I have gained over 80 pounds over the last 2-3 years. I have totally lost control. Several women in my church are interested in starting a group that would help us loose the excess weight plus get money for our youth group to go to camp in the summer. Can you help me get started on the best way to lead these women to success in weight loss and success in getting our kids to church camp this summer. Thanks.

  • Nancy says:

    I have hardly any control over much due to over dominating in laws. So, this past weekend it was revealed to me that I overeat because it is something I can control in the midst of in laws taking over attitude. With the Lord’s help, I can relax and eat wisely and not for spite to the in laws. Pray for me please.

  • Michelle says:

    I really appreciate today’s reading. I particularly like the part in Psalms 23:
    He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
    He leads me beside the still waters.
    He restores my soul;
    He leads me in the paths of righteousness
    For His name’s sake.

    This takes away the stress of my disappointment in myself and where I have let my weight go and how it looks like I am still gaining :-(. But We are Destined to Win the Fight of Faith!

  • Krysta says:

    This was a really enlightening article. Many of your emails are great reads for me! Sometimes, I just need someone to say the tough things (like, “You’re overeating for this reason…). Now that I have faced the truth, I can take steps to change the habits I’ve developed. Thank you very much for this article! Brutal reality.

  • Ashton says:

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

    I am def #1!

    My scripture I choose to focus on is Psalm 119:37

    “Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word.”
    ‭‭

  • DiAne Lavallee says:

    Boredom and procrastination I think are my biggest challenge right now… I know eating out or church events were really bad for me until I realized all i need to do is to ask my host if I can take some home with me … they usually are happy to pack me a huge serving which I get to enjoy several other times or at the restaurant I ask they bring me a container at the same time as my meal then I pack away a big portion of my plate and enjoy it again at least two other times.

  • Mary says:

    Since I was a young girl food has always controlled me and self-control was never easy for me.as an adult I’m still struggling inspite of the health challenges I have. I hate the way I look,feel, and the way clothes make me look. I’ve done fasting,dieting, diet pills, seen councilors and been prayed for,but nothing works for me. Under neath my skin I’m dying and yet I still can’t find the source that can help me break free from bondage. Yes, I have ask God to help my addition to food and yes he gave me a plan but my flesh is weak and in the end I turn back to food to comfort me. What should I do?

    • Thank you to all who responded to this article! To answer your question Mary, I actually have a question for you. All of the help I can offer is through Jesus Christ and rooted in the Bible. While you don’t have to answer this publicly, when did you accept Jesus as your Savior and what led you to make that decision? Jesus is the author and finisher of faith, so your faith in being able to change will determine your success. Faith begins with your belief in God’s word and your daily walk with Him.

      I recommend reading the 3 articles below. Search your heart, asking the Lord in prayer what’s really holding you back. What are you afraid of? The truth is, everybody’s flesh is weak including mine. So you are not the only one. We have different areas of weakness but it is there. That is why we need a Savior to help!

      You said the Lord already gave you a plan. So there is your answer. What is the first step you can take to do what He has already told you to do? Start there. Remove the things that feed your weakness. Do the things that make you strong. Simple, not always easy I know! But start where you are.

      Here are the articles:

      Do you have the Faith to change?

      When Enough is Enough

      Christian Weight Loss: Wins

  • Holly says:

    I so identify with this article. Under Emotional Novocaine – I think it is something women do, or I know that I did, (which is why I am grossly overweight) that is “acceptable” in the Body of Christ. I don’t drink alcohol any more, but when stress hits – it is acceptable to my friends if I need “a chocolate fix” or I am craving something salty, etc. I ate when I should have been PRAYING for my problems! Now, because of this, I have the consequence of using food as a drug – a problem my sin created: I have alot of weight to remove! But with God’s help, I am living in control now – and these articles and this program really speak to me! Very enlightening and powerful use of the Word of God! Thanks!

  • Anu says:

    Thank you so much for the excellent topic. There are times that I still fall into the bottomless pit mode. Thank you for making me aware of this. I’m actually not fully aware why I do this. It sounds crazy. I think sometimes I get complacent with how far God has brought me . Thank you for reminding me that I have to take this to God. I feel blessed to be a part of this community ❤️

  • Judy says:

    Did you eat sweets when you were dieting and losing weight? After you lost all your weight, did you go back to eating sweets?

    • Hi Judy – I did not eat sweets because I found I was very sensitive to sugar. After I lost weight, I ate sweets rarely. Still do. The reason is whatever method you lose weight, it has to be one that you can live with because if you go back to eating the way you did that made you gain weight in the first place, you will gain it back.

  • Christine says:

    I fall prey to a lot of these. One thing that I do, which I didn’t see mentioned but could fall under another category, is eating for energy. I always am dying for a snack – particularly sugar or chocolate when I wake up from a nap. I’m hoping now that I’m not working early in the morning I won’t need many naps, but I would love a verse and a plan of attack for those times.

  • Gail says:

    How true this is, thank you for sharing

  • Joyy says:

    Wow! I actually found myself eating for all 10 reasons at various times! Thanks for this gentle reminder

  • Rena DAVIS says:

    I can definitely identify with most of the reasons here that I overeat. I will have to pay attention and be ready to avoid these traps and have a different mindset to change my eating patterns

    • Kimberly Taylor says:

      Amen, Rena! One of the things I’ve learned is to really pay attention to the direction of my thoughts because when we go astray, it is always going to start there!

  • Gillian says:

    Please keep me in prayer i just can’t do dieets anymore i keep gaining the pounds that i lost

    • Kimberly Taylor says:

      I am praying with you, Gillian. May the Lord open your eyes and give you understanding as to what your next step should be in Him to prosper and be in health as your soul prospers!

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